Have you decided to go on an Erasmus adventure, but are afraid that your long distance relationship won’t last? Don’t worry: there are many ways to maintain a long distance relationship, and you will definitely make it! Just follow these 5 tips:
1. Use Technology
Nowadays, we can do a lot of things with our smartphones. Use every app possible to communicate with your partner! Nowadays, you can video chat with WhatsApp, Viber, Skype and Facebook Messenger, so you can always feel like you’re closer. They’re all great, because as long as you have Wifi or generous mobile data in the country you’re in, it’s always free. Staying in touch is essential when you can’t see each other! Keep your other-half updated about your new (and temporary) life — find the time to do it every day. Stopping communication could cause irreparable damage.
2. Organise trips together
Even if you have decided to spend six months or a year of your life abroad, it doesn’t mean that you can’t see your loved one for the entire period. There are planes, trains and many other ways that can let you meet whenever you want. Try to go home or ask them to visit you. You can also meet halfway. This will allow you to travel together during this period and keep in touch. What about a surprise visit? Your better half would be really happy (just make sure they didn’t already have plans to be away that weekend). And if you don’t have enough money, or if that exam next week requires a lot of studying for and you don’t have the time to travel, just know that someone who loves you will wait and understand.
3. Be trustful and trustworthy
If you have decided to go on Erasmus you must, first of all, trust your partner and not be jealous. Otherwise, the distance will increase the tension of the situation and you will waste a lot of time arguing on WhatsApp or Skype. The result: a possible breakup.
Try to avoid checking their Facebook wall for likes or comments. Have faith in your relationship, as you did before leaving. The most important thing is to not lose control and stick together through the situation, even if you are too many kilometres apart. You too, of course, should remember to always be honest and avoid the temptations that will assault you during Erasmus. It’s pointless to lie: when you live abroad and meet new people, it is easy to fall for anyone, since you’re far away from your loved one.
4. Be creative and share your activities
During your experience abroad, it’s a waste of time to think that everything is rough compared to what you usually do back home. Focus on yourself, reach the goals for which you came here for, commit to discovering the new city you’re in and to learn the local language — be creative and don’t waste time. When you get in touch with your partner, you’ll be thrilled to tell them all about your plans and to share everyday’s milestones. The distance will be secondary. With some of your creativity, you may also think about some activities to do together, regardless of the distance between you. Example: watch you favourite TV series simultaneously, how about that?
5. Send gifts
Who said that when you’re far apart, one cannot give or receive presents? That’s what post offices are for! Send small gifts to your partner every now and then to let them know how important they are, despite the distance. You could share a typical sweet from your new city or a gadget that they could carry with them at any time to remember you by. Cute, right? Even an unexpected letter could make your better half feel really happy. Even though technology lets us video chat, writing on a piece of paper is always more personal and real. What about mailing some pictures of your new life? If you like videos, you could also think about making something more detailed, so that the ones waiting for you at home will feel remembered.
Translated by Cristina Tomé
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